Getting dumped sucks. But it’s even worse when you’re rejected by someone you didn’t even date.
You often hear people use statements like “we are not official but we tell each other “I love you””.“We’re more than comfortable with each other; we debate about theories and talk big life ideas” “We talk about the future (our house, our wedding, our kids)” etc.
You never had a “real” relationship with them, which seems like it would make it easier to forget about them—but that’s far from the case. We feel your pain. It happens to the best of us.
If you are currently going through this type of heart break, below are a few tips to help you get over it.
Allow Yourself to Be Upset
Because it was never a legit relationship, many people put the idea into their heads that they can’t be upset. They think that because they didn’t date this individual, they shouldn’t accept these feelings of heartbreak. But that’s totally wrong. You’re more than allowed to be frustrated at how things played out, mainly because rejection is painful no matter how tough you are.The only thing to watch out for is that you don’t allow yourself to wallow in self-pity for too long. Give yourself a week max, and then let it go.
GO OUT WITH FRIENDS
If they’re really your friends, they will want to make sure you’re living your best life. Plus, when you can’t help but mope about over this dumb person who rejected you, they’ll be there to remind you how incredible you are and that you don’t need this person in your life. That’s what friends are for!
Please don’t become a stalker .People usually tend to stalk their supposed exes to see if they have already found a replacement for them. That is certainly not going to do you any good. Move on with your life and try your best not to think about them. It certainly is not easy but is worth it.
YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME
You may find yourself questioning your decision to become friends with them in the first place. Or probably try to figure out what you did wrong. well for your information, you didn’t do anything wrong. But take Take responsibility when you have to.
OPEN UP TO NEW PEOPLE
Don’t shut new suitors out. We usually feel it is best to keep to ourselves when our hearts are broken but that’s wrong.Just because it didn’t work out with this individual, doesn’t mean it won’t work out with whoever comes along next. Give it another shot with someone new, because letting the sting of the rejection get to you is only going to make it that much more difficult for you to move on.
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By: Reward Feehi Kpokli/universnewsroom.com